How to chat and get along with girls correctly? These 10 golden suggestions will help you get rid of the "straight man"
1. Choose an interesting and relevant topic to start talking to girls
There are about six interesting and easy topics to talk about with girls, such as:
Movies, music or books ( What does she like? Figure out if you have anything in common)
Goals and Dreams (What are her dreams for the future?)
Family (Where are they from, does she have any siblings. ?)
Travel (Does she have any travel plans? What’s the coolest place she’s ever been?)
Work or school (Has she met bad people/fixes at work? What subjects to study)
What does she like to do in her free time
2. Increase attraction by maintaining suspense
Suspense is a combination of uncertainty and excitement . You can increase attraction by keeping her in suspense. Don't keep praising her or showing your admiration for her to get a girl's attention.
This kind of "excessive hunger and thirst" will make her feel disgusted, so just keep the praise in moderation, fight and joke boldly, as long as it is not excessive and create a relaxed atmosphere
3. Know how to match each other’s interests
Balance your relationship by matching her investments. So, if she is open to you, you can match it by being equally open. If she doesn't open up, you probably shouldn't tell her your whole life story.
For example, when sending messages, if the other party never sends you messages, keep it to a minimum and just send one or two occasionally. If the other party occasionally sends you messages, respond to them in the same way.
4. Keep your own pace and don’t adjust yourself because of the other person’s words
Sometimes when you chat with girls, they may make fun of you or nag you, for example, they don’t like you. clothes, question your life choices, or they complain about your hair style.
In most cases, this is a subconscious behavior that occurs because she is interested in you, and they may not really need you to change. It will surprise her if you make changes to please her. Instead, just keep to your own pace.
5. Treat the girl you like like a normal friend
In order to attract girls, you may feel that you need to appear smart, humorous and courageous, but if you are not such a person yourself , this will only backfire.
On the contrary, treat them as friends, chat easily, don't put pressure on yourself, and you will be more successful.
6. Don’t try to prove that you are worthy of her
Most men make the mistake of trying to prove that they are worthy of a girl. They're thinking: "What should I say to make her like me?"
No.Make yourself look so cheap! If you think you are not good enough, make yourself good instead of doing something to "buy" the other person and make her think you are good. Keep the conversation normal, keep your confidence and dare to chat.
7. Never declare your love or feelings prematurely
I have seen this many times, and most of the results are "You are a good person, I am not suitable for you" ".
This "ritual sense" of expression is something you can only do after you have established a relationship with each other, rather than telling the other person how much you love her right away.
We tend to indulge in things that we are not sure we can get. We know what we could have, we take for granted. So, if you make it clear to a girl that she can have you, you'll become less attractive.
8. Paying too much attention to your own performance
When getting along with girls, it is easy to get nervous. This is normal. But what you have to do is to focus on the girl, not yourself.
As you shift the focus from yourself to her, your tension and self-consciousness will begin to fade away. That's because your brain can't focus on two things at the same time.
It’s not a bad thing if your voice starts to shake a little, on the contrary, it helps make the interaction feel more sincere and real, making you endearing as a person.
9. Find a good time for the next step
At the end of each conversation, think about how to prepare for the next date, such as deliberately leaving a regret, and then Find an excuse to make up for it next time.
Of course, when my friend met his wife, we were hanging out in a big group. When it was time to leave, he was going to play basketball with his best friend.
He then casually asked the girl he liked if she would join them. Within a few days, they started dating. A few weeks later, they became boyfriend and girlfriend.
10. Keep an appropriate distance when communicating with girls
Keeping in touch with a girl? When you decide how often to communicate with her, there are two main principles that need to be balanced.
The first principle is to strike while the iron is hot. Don't wait so long that she starts to forget about you or thinks you're not interested. You want her memory of you to be clear; you want her to miss you.
However, if you do this alone, you may appear too eager and intense. Being too enthusiastic means you don't have much else going on in your life and will turn off most girls.
To balance this, we need a second principle: Give her time and space to develop her feelings for you.
When you give her some time to wait and think about you, she will begin to look forward to the next time you text her or call her.
So, remember one word and be "sparse and well-organized" when communicating.
