Recently, I had a deep conversation with my best friend about the topic of love, and it really resonated with me. As someone who has been through it, I want to share some non-negotiables and considerations that women must adhere to in relationships. Some of these lessons come from my own experiences, while others are cautionary tales from friends. I hope they can offer some guidance.

First and foremost, never lend money or take out loans for your boyfriend. I know that women in love can easily be swayed by sweet words, especially when the other person puts on a pitiful act. But, dear, remember this: a man who truly loves you would never put you at such risk. As netizen "居旅夫人66" wisely said, a little more rationality can prevent a lot of unnecessary harm. Once you use your own information to borrow money and can't repay it, the high interest and damaged credit will be your burden to bear. It's simply not worth it.

Secondly, getting pregnant before marriage is an absolute taboo. I understand that some women might think, "Since I've decided he's the one, it doesn't matter." However, getting pregnant before marriage can leave you in a highly vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally. As netizen "不染墨" rightly pointed out, in the end, the man might not have to bear any responsibility, while the woman has to face all the consequences. So, never gamble with your life; protecting yourself is paramount.

Now, let"s talk about the phrase "I'll take care of you." It sounds romantic, doesn't it? But, dear, don't let this phrase cloud your judgment. Even if the allowance he gives you is more than your current salary, never give up your ability to earn your own money. Because once you lose financial independence, over time, it's you who will feel the psychological imbalance, it's you who will have to read his moods, and it's you who will struggle after a breakup. Young women today are becoming more and more aware of this, which is one of the reasons why birth rates are relatively low. Everyone is afraid of losing their job due to childbirth and ending up as a housewife, living a life of dependency.

Lastly, never be the other woman. No matter how much you like this person, don"t put yourself in such a position. It will only cause you to gradually lose your dignity, and in the end, it's you who will have to compromise and possibly sacrifice your reputation. Your parents worked hard to raise you so that you could live a happy life and have a fulfilling family, not so that you could destroy someone else's family.

Love is beautiful, but it also requires us to keep a clear head. No matter how much the other person loves you, in the end, the only one who can accompany you to the very end is yourself. So, dear, always protect yourself and adhere to these non-negotiables to truly have a happy and fulfilling love life.