When many boys are chatting with the girl they like, they either can’t find the topic, or they think of whatever they want to talk about, and then the chat slowly turns into an awkward chat. Awkward chatting is not only detrimental to the development of chat content, but also detrimental to the development of the relationship between the two parties. So how can you avoid awkward conversations when chatting with a girl you like? Now, let’s talk about how to avoid awkward conversations when chatting with a girl you like.

1. Divergent chat

We all know that when we are in school, especially If we are studying science, the teacher may tell us to have divergent thinking! In fact, it means that we need to make more connections and draw inferences.

Although chatting is no more complicated than studying, under the guidance of divergent thinking, you can have a lively chat with girls, at least you won’t get cold feet.

When it comes to thinking, you may think it is very advanced and cannot be learned, but in fact it is not that inscrutable. Just talk to girls about more open-ended topics!

For example:

Male: What are you doing?

Female: Watching TV (keyword)

Male: What TV are you watching?

Female: "xxx"

Male: I see a lot of people watching it recently, don’t you think the male coach is the best?

Female: No (girls have negative emotions )

Male: What else do you like besides watching TV dramas (change the topic)

The chat process here is to use the keywords in girls’ words to start the chat. Many boys here like to tell girls Girls are not interested in what you are doing to gain a sense of presence in this way. Talking to girls about her is topical and will not let you enter the awkward chat mode. However, you should be careful not to talk about the same topic. If it lasts too long, girls will become bored and bored. They usually change the topic after two or three conversations.

2. Topic guidance

In addition to divergent chat, topic guidance can also be conducted appropriately. Steer the conversation into areas you are familiar with.

For example, if you talked to a girl about "Beijing Love Story" earlier, and you usually like to watch movies or TV series, you can continue the conversation along this topic.

Haven’t movie theaters reopened recently? You can ask her what type of movie she likes to watch the most, is it a romance movie, an action movie, or a romantic action movie?

Topics to talk about It’s not limited to movies, food, music, games, as long as it’s something you’re familiar with~

Another way is to use introductory sentence patterns, such as:

Male: You What do you usually like to play?

Female: xxx

Male: I’ve never played before, why don’t you teach me?

Female: OK

Male: Why are you so good? What’s the secret?

< p> Here is to start by asking questions to give girls an approachable feeling, and then intersperse compliments during the chat. This will make it easier for girls to accept you and be willing to chat with you, and naturally avoid awkward conversations. .

3. Leave the scene in time and remain mysterious

Many boys are having fun chatting with girls. I can't stop talking anymore, I hope I can chat from day to night, from night to dawn.

What’s even more embarrassing is that when the topic has been squeezed out, he keeps finding some fragmentary nonsense with the girl and continues the chat until the girl can’t stand it anymore. It was up to her to end the chat.

After that, I went to find a girl next time and found that he was lukewarm to him, and I couldn’t figure it out.

This is what I often say will not end.

Another situation is that when ending a chat, the ending is very abrupt, giving the impression that the chat has been cut off abruptly.

This is not a good idea.

You can leave in time when the chat atmosphere is good.

There is a primacy effect in psychology, so that when you start chatting next time, she will still remember this pleasant atmosphere.

Of course, when the conversation is heated, cutting off the conversation abruptly is obviously a very uncomfortable thing, so it requires a little more skill.

A comfortable ending is to make the other party feel that you are forced to terminate. Therefore, chatting is also a skill and requires more practice.

When it comes to stopping a topic, the most common way is to find an excuse.

For example: "I'm going to be busy", "It's late and it's time to go to bed", "I'm going to take a shower", "It's time to eat", "It's time to get on the plane", etc.

But some of these reasons will make people feel perfunctory, just like the well-known one of the three treasures of the goddess "I went to take a shower".

Strictly speaking, taking a shower does not hinder chatting. If you really want to chat, you can continue chatting after taking a shower.

It is precisely because this kind of excuse for cutting off gives people the feeling that you don’t want to talk to them, then they will definitely feel very uncomfortable.

So a comfortable ending to a chat is to let the girl know that although you still want to chat with her, there is really no way to talk anymore.

For example: "The boss has arranged work for me, and I have to go to work." "You can't use your mobile phone when you have to drive." These areA more hard-core reason.

Then, the same reason, said in different ways, will give girls very different feelings.