Secret love is a person's chaos. Although he will silently pay attention to everything about the other person, he does not dare to say it directly or express his feelings. So why does this happen?
The answer is simple, because you are not confident enough and are afraid of failure. You dare not break this beautiful illusion for fear that you will fail because of yourself. In a moment of recklessness, I lost the right to peek into the other person's life. But you can't get rid of the other person's attraction to you, so you can only pretend to be calm and nonchalant.
You are afraid that when you first talk, you will not hold back your feelings and be rejected by that person; you are afraid that you are not perfect enough and have to face the other person's slightly disgusted eyes; you are afraid that after failure , I don’t even have the right to have a crush.
Therefore, you dare not break the status quo and would rather maintain the status quo.
As time goes by, you will naively feel that "as long as you don't confess, then hope will always be there, and at least you can fall in love with your fantasy."
After a long time of secret love, in your heart You will unconsciously create an illusion that in your imagination, he is your girlfriend. But in real life, you are just her ordinary friend.
I admit that the feeling of secret love is very beautiful, but this beauty is a huge bubble. After it bursts, many people simply cannot The price to bear.
If you like someone, you may not have any tricks or no love experience, but you must achieve two things: sincerity and bravery.
What kind of people do people tend to have a good impression of?
To be honest, anyone with some life experience and social experience can actually spot the "so-called scumbag" at a glance /green tea". Moreover, many good girls or good boys really hate it when old fritters approach them. After all, many people don’t want to meet someone who just flirts with them and leaves for fun.
What really makes people’s hearts move is the temperament that is often ignored by many men and women – youthfulness.
What is youthful feeling? In short, it comes down to two words: "sincerity and bravery."
What is sincerity? It means that others are still playing hard to get, hot and cold. When, you blushed and stammered, "Can I treat you to a movie?"
What is sunshine? It means that when others are pretending to be reserved and flirting, you say to her confidently and sunshinely, "Your outfit looks really good today!".
These are the feelings of a person's youth - I like you, and I don't want to use any tricks to tarnish my love for you. My liking for you is an impulse, all I can see isYou are irrepressible.
In many cases, this is the reason why martial arts is defeated by bricks and mortar.
So, while you are still young, there is no need to hide some things in your heart. Even if you are a novice villager, you still need to experience yourself. Even if you are rejected, you can still learn lessons and experience. , these are extremely valuable experiences on your growth path.
